Sunday, December 15, 2019

Learning how to love, accept and value ourselves God's way

In order for us to love, accept and feel value for ourselves, we need to connect with and allow in God's love.  His love is perfect, complete, and unconditional.  His love for us created the ultimate sacrifice - His son, Jesus, dying on the cross to take away the sins of every one of us, if we accept him into our heart. There is no greater love than this. His love for us is beyond anything we can ever fathom.  Genesis 1:26-27 says, "we are made in the image and likeness of God."  Psalm 139:13-16 says "we are fearfully and wonderfully made and all my days were already written."  We are not a mistake.  God created us intentionally in love with a unique purpose that only we can fulfill.  Once we have accepted Jesus as our savior, we have the love of Him and we can tap into that love whenever we want.  It's not dependent on anything outside of us - Jobs, money, possessions, people, even ourselves. This is selfish self love.  This is what the world teaches us about self love.  It's actually backwards.  This is prideful, focuses on the self, and doesn't add value to life.  It minimizes our potential and is based in fear.  Nothing outside of us can provide what only God can.  Through this understanding, we always know that we are enough just as we are, perfect, whole and complete, regardless of any mistakes, fears, doubts, failures or sins we have committed, are currently committing or will commit in the future.  When we sin, we can ask for forgiveness, let it go and move on.  We are free. Without God, we are nothing and with God, we are everything.  What a beautiful miracle we have in Jesus. He is our everything.  When we can love ourselves God's way, whatever we have or don't have on the outside, doesn't affect that love.  We still feel the same amount of love from Him, because it's not dependent upon anything outside of us.  Possessions, relationships, jobs, money come and go, but God's love for us is constant and always accessible at any given moment, regardless of what we are doing, where we are or how we are feeling. It's there for all of us. This is the gift of grace. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, " My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
We are only responsible to do our best because our confidence is in Him. That is enough.  He will give us all the strength and confidence we need to do whatever He has called us to do.  This is the gift of the Holy Spirit in us.  Jeremiah 17:7 says, "Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, Who's confidence is in Him."
Ephesians 3:16-18 says, “I pray that out of his glorious riches, he may strengthen you with the power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.  And I pray that you being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord's holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ."
You may be asking how do I start to achieve this kind of self love and worth?
1.  Accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, if you haven't already.  In order to do this, say, "Dear Lord Jesus, Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins.  Please forgive me.  Come into my life.  I receive you as my Lord and Savior.  Now, help me to live for you the rest of this life.  In Jesus name, I pray. Amen."
2.  Develop, utilize and share the unique gifts He has blessed you with in your life with others.
3.  Ask Him to help you become aware of and take away whatever or whoever is blocking you from seeing yourself the way God sees you and living the life He has planned for you.
4. Practice thanking and praising God for everything in your life, even the small gifts and watch your blessings multiply.
5. Compile a list of bible scriptures that demonstrate God's unfailing love for you and look at them daily as a reminder and faith builder.
6.  Connect with other believers and join a church community to build you up so the worldly ways won't drag you down and make you veer from God.

I would love to hear your comments about this topic and any actions you are taking or have taken that has helped you increase Your self love and acceptance God’s way.

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