Thursday, November 5, 2015


Right now, we know everything. 
We are free in the moment. 
All is revealed now. 
Truly, it is all we have.   
There are no yesterdays and tomorrow is but a thought that may or may not happen the way we wish. 
Birds just sing their song… loud, melodic and strong. 
The source is always in the moment. 
Acceptance of the moment is the only way to move forward…is the only way to have a foundation of truth. 
Without truth, there exists nothing. 
Truth and love, the center of all being. 
Perfection is here already, within us and all around us. 
We are one in the now. 
Accept what you feel now. 
Accept what you are doing now. 
Accept the flowers in your life. 
Accept the rough current in your life. 
Accept the valley. 
Accept the peak…stand on top of the mountain – Wow, what a clear view! 
Accept your attachments, your wrongs, 
Accept the dove, the eagle, the vulture, 
Accept summer, winter, spring and fall. 
Accept the need to wait. 
Accept the need to take action. 
Accept the flow of the waterfall. 
Accept pain. 
Accept joy. 
Accept listening.  Listen and you will learn. 
Accept black, green, gray and red: 
A red rose, the black of night, the gray of rain, the beautiful green meadow laden with brilliant flowers. 
Stillness of a glass lake… the rushing of a white, clear, rocky river. 
Accept two lovers holding hands, 
A beautiful beach at sunset on the sand. 
Accept love and light, 
Letting go and holding on tight. 
Accept the peace of quiet, the whispering willows. 
The melody of an orchestra. 
A bird singing, 
A child laughing, 
A friend’s voice on the phone, 
A massage, 
Warm water on your body, 
A touch, 
A puppy’s fur, 
Walking barefoot in the grass. 
By Jill Dawn Schwartz

Monday, June 22, 2015

Loving Ourselves and Others

"If we make our goal to live a life of compassion and unconditional love, then the world will indeed become a garden where all kinds of flowers can bloom and grow.”
                                                  - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“Just remember, let true Love be your guide. Love of yourself, you fellow man, in the fact the whole Universe. To Love is to live in God's pure Light.”
                                                - Unknown

"Love is a master key which opens the gate of happiness."
                                                - Oliver Wedell Holmes

True, spiritual love occurs moment by moment, day by day, is unconditional, non-judgmental, accepting, giving, honest, peaceful, caring, unselfish, comforting, serving, joyful and has no expectations.  Love encompasses so much that it’s hard to put it down in words.  It is the ultimate force in the universe, the goal in which we all seek, our main driving force.  When we love ourselves, we overflow with love for every living thing on the planet. Loving ourselves means respecting ourselves, listening to and acting on our inner guidance.  The internal work we do, working through feelings and getting to know who we are at the core, gives us a sense of profound self love where true, pure love can be extended out to others.  We can’t give away what we don’t have.  Although it can be challenging to love in a world where there is so much hate and fear, we must rise above the worldly turmoil and love anyway, without expectations.  This is the only way to true freedom and unlimited power.  All the goodness of life is nurtured in the soil of love, for love comforts, heals, creates, liberates, and elevates our lives in a way that nothing else can. We either love or suffer. We either love or destroy. We must each make a choice to love if we are to prosper, and we must make this choice deeply each and every day. This is where spiritual practice and belief in an Unlimited Love that surpasses all mere human love can be so valuable.  God loves us unconditionally and with His guidance, He wants to help us love ourselves and others unconditionally.

The Institute for Research on Unlimited Love suggests that selfless love can increase our immunity by de-stressing us.  Love extends our life span by improving our mental state, reducing depression by shifting our focus from ourselves to giving or helping others.  Studies suggest that SHOWING support and affection for loved ones slows down the aging process even more than RECEIVING love does.  This requires setting aside the pride we take in the "psychological self”, overcoming the defenses we use to protect our pride, and surrendering to a profound absorption of divine love that calls us to treat ourselves and others with kindness, patience and forgiveness.   

It is our responsibility to love ourselves, our Creator and the world.  This is what the Bible teaches us.  Begin by recognizing that you can't love others until you truly love yourself — body, mind, and soul.  As you move through your day, be aware of love's expressions emerging from you and/or coming toward you — attraction, focus, absorption, desire, adoration, security, trust, empathy, caring, harmony, contentment, communion. Practice extending these feelings to yourself and others.  Take a few minutes daily to visualize a world of love, joy, peace and happiness.  Imagine the details, engage all your senses in the experience and you will soon start to attract this type of life for yourself.  

As you begin this process of spiritual healing into a life of love, start by listening to your unconscious and journal what comes up.  Meditate and pray.  Have the courage to face, feel and explore your pain and anger.  Face up to the terror of your inner loneliness.  Find strength in your weakness.  Overcome the fear of losing your identity by giving it up willingly.  With devotion and discipline, you will discover the ability to give up your pride, forgive yourself and those who hurt you, and give of yourself in pure love.  Then, you will free yourself to be on the path of life and healing.

If you, or someone you know would like to explore living a life of love on a deeper level, please contact me at (805)279-4686 to schedule an appointment.

Peace, Love and Blessings,


Thursday, May 14, 2015

Pain is Inevitable but Suffering is Optional

We all want to be free to emotional pain and suffering, and unfortunately most of us will do anything to prevent pain from occurring in our lives.  These distractions tend to turn into addictions on some level.  Anything taken to the extreme isn’t good for us.  For whatever reason, our society rejects pain as being a necessary part of life.  How dare we say we aren’t doing well when someone asks us.  Authenticity is looked down upon.  Eastern religions like Buddhism tell us to move into our pain, to be in the moment.  This is the way we learn about ourselves and the only way we can be free.  We learn what is working in our lives and what isn’t, who is good for us and who isn’t, actions that need to be taken, boundaries that need to be set, etc.   When we don’t dive into the pain, we live with an underlying chronic discomfort, restlessness and anxiety.  It gets repressed, and eventually we get depressed. We lose our peace, our joy.   Pain is a natural part of life.  The deeper we can be with and feel our pain, the deeper our capacity will be to feel joy. 

Pain has many causes:  Losing someone we love whether it be through a breakup, death, moving away, a divorce, the disappointment when things don’t work out the way we would like them to, when we lose a job or move out of our parent’s house.  Any life transition, whether it’s positive or negative brings grief, whether we are aware of it or not.   When we don’t feel the necessary feelings that life brings, they don’t go away.  They stay stuck in our bodies and actually drain our energy.  Ironically, by being present to ourselves and our lives, we move through the pain faster.  Most people think the opposite, that if we repress or avoid our pain, it will go away.  That is what actually leads to suffering, which is long term pain.  In life, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.  I love this saying because it reminds me what is true.  We have a choice to suffer.  How powerful!  If only we actually lived this truth, our lives would be so much more joyful.  Feeling our feelings is a sign of self love.  When we love ourselves enough to feel our feelings, whatever they are moment by moment, we will learn lessons quicker, experience more joy, peace and love, decrease fear and anxiety, and most of all, trust that our lives are unfolding for the highest good.  We actually have the opportunity to LIVE our lives and be free.  This is all easier said than done.  It takes work, discipline, commitment and intention.  My collaborative psychotherapy services are designed to educate and empower you to take back your life and start to enjoy these amazing benefits.  Contact me anytime at (805)279-4686 for a free consultation. 

Peace and Blessings,