Monday, January 18, 2016


Believe in your heart that your dreams can and will come true or something better will replace them that is for your highest and best good.  Don’t ever let go of the vision in your heart.  If God put it there then it will come to fruition, just not in our time or our way.  That’s the difficult part.  Let go of how it is supposed to look.  Tune into God's guidance every minute of every day and take action on that guidance, no matter how silly, confusing or disjointed it may seem.  There is a Plan and know that the Plan is always in our best interests, even though it may not seem that way at the time.  We have to have faith.  Faith is blind trust.  Faith is a muscle.  Just like the muscles in our body need work to build and stay strong, faith takes practice in order to be strong.  Start small.  Put your faith in small things, then when that becomes comfortable, move on to the bigger things.  Hindsight is always 20/20.  It will all make sense later.  You don’t have to know everything now.  In fact, it is totally futile to try because there is no possible way to.  You actually don’t have much control over anything, so just let go, surrender and let God.  Every experience that we go through is ABSOLUTELY necessary in order to get to the next place on our journey.  It is ALL in perfect harmony with the Plan that God has for us.  Let your life unfold the way it’s supposed to without getting in the way.   It will only delay the inevitable.  Everything is a prerequisite for the next thing on the journey.  It’s like going up a ladder.  We can’t start on the top because if we try, we will fall all the way down.  We need to take each step at a time to get to the top.  We need the lay the groundwork, have a strong foundation to build from, otherwise we will fall all the way down and have to start all over again.  If that’s necessary, then so be it.  We will hopefully learn.  Never settle for less than what you know in your heart to be true.  Let go of what isn’t working to make room for what will, trusting that it will come in the perfect time and it will all make sense.  Be the miracle you want to see in your life and you will see them everywhere.
If fear and control are in your way and you don't know how to move past them, please contact me and I will collaborate with you to moving forward into an amazing life you only dreamed was possible.  My phone number is (805)279-4686.


Thursday, November 5, 2015


Right now, we know everything. 
We are free in the moment. 
All is revealed now. 
Truly, it is all we have.   
There are no yesterdays and tomorrow is but a thought that may or may not happen the way we wish. 
Birds just sing their song… loud, melodic and strong. 
The source is always in the moment. 
Acceptance of the moment is the only way to move forward…is the only way to have a foundation of truth. 
Without truth, there exists nothing. 
Truth and love, the center of all being. 
Perfection is here already, within us and all around us. 
We are one in the now. 
Accept what you feel now. 
Accept what you are doing now. 
Accept the flowers in your life. 
Accept the rough current in your life. 
Accept the valley. 
Accept the peak…stand on top of the mountain – Wow, what a clear view! 
Accept your attachments, your wrongs, 
Accept the dove, the eagle, the vulture, 
Accept summer, winter, spring and fall. 
Accept the need to wait. 
Accept the need to take action. 
Accept the flow of the waterfall. 
Accept pain. 
Accept joy. 
Accept listening.  Listen and you will learn. 
Accept black, green, gray and red: 
A red rose, the black of night, the gray of rain, the beautiful green meadow laden with brilliant flowers. 
Stillness of a glass lake… the rushing of a white, clear, rocky river. 
Accept two lovers holding hands, 
A beautiful beach at sunset on the sand. 
Accept love and light, 
Letting go and holding on tight. 
Accept the peace of quiet, the whispering willows. 
The melody of an orchestra. 
A bird singing, 
A child laughing, 
A friend’s voice on the phone, 
A massage, 
Warm water on your body, 
A touch, 
A puppy’s fur, 
Walking barefoot in the grass. 
By Jill Dawn Schwartz

Monday, June 22, 2015

Loving Ourselves and Others

"If we make our goal to live a life of compassion and unconditional love, then the world will indeed become a garden where all kinds of flowers can bloom and grow.”
                                                  - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

“Just remember, let true Love be your guide. Love of yourself, you fellow man, in the fact the whole Universe. To Love is to live in God's pure Light.”
                                                - Unknown

"Love is a master key which opens the gate of happiness."
                                                - Oliver Wedell Holmes

True, spiritual love occurs moment by moment, day by day, is unconditional, non-judgmental, accepting, giving, honest, peaceful, caring, unselfish, comforting, serving, joyful and has no expectations.  Love encompasses so much that it’s hard to put it down in words.  It is the ultimate force in the universe, the goal in which we all seek, our main driving force.  When we love ourselves, we overflow with love for every living thing on the planet. Loving ourselves means respecting ourselves, listening to and acting on our inner guidance.  The internal work we do, working through feelings and getting to know who we are at the core, gives us a sense of profound self love where true, pure love can be extended out to others.  We can’t give away what we don’t have.  Although it can be challenging to love in a world where there is so much hate and fear, we must rise above the worldly turmoil and love anyway, without expectations.  This is the only way to true freedom and unlimited power.  All the goodness of life is nurtured in the soil of love, for love comforts, heals, creates, liberates, and elevates our lives in a way that nothing else can. We either love or suffer. We either love or destroy. We must each make a choice to love if we are to prosper, and we must make this choice deeply each and every day. This is where spiritual practice and belief in an Unlimited Love that surpasses all mere human love can be so valuable.  God loves us unconditionally and with His guidance, He wants to help us love ourselves and others unconditionally.

The Institute for Research on Unlimited Love suggests that selfless love can increase our immunity by de-stressing us.  Love extends our life span by improving our mental state, reducing depression by shifting our focus from ourselves to giving or helping others.  Studies suggest that SHOWING support and affection for loved ones slows down the aging process even more than RECEIVING love does.  This requires setting aside the pride we take in the "psychological self”, overcoming the defenses we use to protect our pride, and surrendering to a profound absorption of divine love that calls us to treat ourselves and others with kindness, patience and forgiveness.   

It is our responsibility to love ourselves, our Creator and the world.  This is what the Bible teaches us.  Begin by recognizing that you can't love others until you truly love yourself — body, mind, and soul.  As you move through your day, be aware of love's expressions emerging from you and/or coming toward you — attraction, focus, absorption, desire, adoration, security, trust, empathy, caring, harmony, contentment, communion. Practice extending these feelings to yourself and others.  Take a few minutes daily to visualize a world of love, joy, peace and happiness.  Imagine the details, engage all your senses in the experience and you will soon start to attract this type of life for yourself.  

As you begin this process of spiritual healing into a life of love, start by listening to your unconscious and journal what comes up.  Meditate and pray.  Have the courage to face, feel and explore your pain and anger.  Face up to the terror of your inner loneliness.  Find strength in your weakness.  Overcome the fear of losing your identity by giving it up willingly.  With devotion and discipline, you will discover the ability to give up your pride, forgive yourself and those who hurt you, and give of yourself in pure love.  Then, you will free yourself to be on the path of life and healing.

If you, or someone you know would like to explore living a life of love on a deeper level, please contact me at (805)279-4686 to schedule an appointment.

Peace, Love and Blessings,


Thursday, May 14, 2015

Pain is Inevitable but Suffering is Optional

We all want to be free to emotional pain and suffering, and unfortunately most of us will do anything to prevent pain from occurring in our lives.  These distractions tend to turn into addictions on some level.  Anything taken to the extreme isn’t good for us.  For whatever reason, our society rejects pain as being a necessary part of life.  How dare we say we aren’t doing well when someone asks us.  Authenticity is looked down upon.  Eastern religions like Buddhism tell us to move into our pain, to be in the moment.  This is the way we learn about ourselves and the only way we can be free.  We learn what is working in our lives and what isn’t, who is good for us and who isn’t, actions that need to be taken, boundaries that need to be set, etc.   When we don’t dive into the pain, we live with an underlying chronic discomfort, restlessness and anxiety.  It gets repressed, and eventually we get depressed. We lose our peace, our joy.   Pain is a natural part of life.  The deeper we can be with and feel our pain, the deeper our capacity will be to feel joy. 

Pain has many causes:  Losing someone we love whether it be through a breakup, death, moving away, a divorce, the disappointment when things don’t work out the way we would like them to, when we lose a job or move out of our parent’s house.  Any life transition, whether it’s positive or negative brings grief, whether we are aware of it or not.   When we don’t feel the necessary feelings that life brings, they don’t go away.  They stay stuck in our bodies and actually drain our energy.  Ironically, by being present to ourselves and our lives, we move through the pain faster.  Most people think the opposite, that if we repress or avoid our pain, it will go away.  That is what actually leads to suffering, which is long term pain.  In life, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.  I love this saying because it reminds me what is true.  We have a choice to suffer.  How powerful!  If only we actually lived this truth, our lives would be so much more joyful.  Feeling our feelings is a sign of self love.  When we love ourselves enough to feel our feelings, whatever they are moment by moment, we will learn lessons quicker, experience more joy, peace and love, decrease fear and anxiety, and most of all, trust that our lives are unfolding for the highest good.  We actually have the opportunity to LIVE our lives and be free.  This is all easier said than done.  It takes work, discipline, commitment and intention.  My collaborative psychotherapy services are designed to educate and empower you to take back your life and start to enjoy these amazing benefits.  Contact me anytime at (805)279-4686 for a free consultation. 

Peace and Blessings,

Monday, September 22, 2014

How to Have the Abundant Life That is Your Birthright

Eric Butterworth, A popular Unity minister and author once said, "Prosperity is not just having things. It is the consciousness that attracts the things. Prosperity is a way of living and thinking, and not just having money or things. Poverty is a way of living and thinking, and not just a lack of money or things." 
     Prosperity.  We all want it.  What is it?  Many people have different definitions. For one person, it may be having the freedom and time to do what they love.   For someone else it might mean having material possessions such as a car, or a house, or a lot of money. For another, it may mean having many people in their life who are spiritually evolved.  It doesn’t matter what your definition is.  The important thing to ask yourself is, “Does my life contain all the elements of prosperity according to my definition of Prosperity?”  If it does, congratulations!  You are a prosperity master.  If it doesn’t, that’s okay.  You just have more work to do, which will cause you to grow and prosper.  So either way you win.
     Just like the quote at the beginning says, our abundance and prosperity is a result of the thoughts and feelings we have about life.  Form follows thought.  Think of everything we have in the world – cars, roads, buildings, cities, amusement parks.  All of these things were first a thought in someone’s mind with an underlying passion and motivation for creating it.  Sounds simple? It is.  Easy? If it was, we wouldn't be able to appreciate it.  We manifest things all the time using thoughts and feelings without even realizing it.  Manifestation is a process of bringing ideas, concepts, visions and dreams from our inner world into the outer world, to experience them with our physical senses.  By thinking new thoughts about prosperity, new realities are created about prosperity.  We are the source of our riches, not a job, money, a spouse or parents or anything or anyone outside of us.  By linking with the unlimited abundance of your higher self, by opening your connection to the higher forces (Source, God or whatever you call it), and by radiating the higher qualities of inner peace, joy, love, and aliveness, abundance will be yours.  It’s the Law of the Universe.  
     Another aspect of abundance is devotion to a personal life purpose. These people who are committed to a life purpose embody an abundant heart that naturally results in abundance and prosperity and easily attracts resources, people and situations to fulfill their purpose.  Where we focus our energy, time, talents and skills in doing what we love, we get rewarded.   Wayne Dyer, a popular inspirational author and speaker says, "There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there's only scarcity of resolve to make it happen."
     Focus on your purpose like a laser point of light.  Write it down as a daily reminder.  Take the actions you are guided to take.  The gifts may not always look the way you expect them to, but they will always be for our highest good and what we need at the time. 
     The final aspect of abundance is gratitude.  Gratitude is the greatest prayer we can ever offer our Creator.  Inspiration is the greatest meditation we can ever receive from our Creator.  Prosperous people who experience abundance know the importance of being thankful for everything in their life.  When you focus your attention on the blessings in your life even if you don’t think you have any, your blessings will multiply. Be grateful for your life right now in this moment.

I would like you to understand that by asking the right questions you can increase your abundance and prosperity.  Here are a few to ask yourself:

What lights me up and inspires me? 
What am I good at? 
What gives me the most significance and meaning? 
What are the actions I can take toward fulfilling my purpose today? 
How can I major in what I love, minor in what I need to, let others worry about what I should do, delegate what I have to, and dump what is not necessary? 

Now, as you take a closer look at these questions and ponder them, you will find yourself starting to experience new thoughts and feelings, which will lead to new actions, more positive directions, more fulfillment, and you will be rewarded abundantly beyond your wildest dreams.  If you have a hard time answering these questions, there may be underlying past issues preventing you from experiencing the joy and abundance that is your birthright.  Get the help you need to get to the root of what is blocking abundance.  Feel free to contact me and I can discuss further how to help you live the life you were meant to live, free from past pains, hurts and trauma.

Blessings and prosperity always,


Monday, August 25, 2014

Letting Go of the Past

Letting go is the process of releasing people, situations, thoughts, habits and patterns that no longer serve us and cause us pain. Letting go means surrendering our ego and self will and trusting that our highest good and greatest joy will be given to us.  Many of us tend to want to remain in control and refuse to let go even when we know it is in our best interests to.  Letting go is realizing that even when we really want something to occur in our lives, that sometimes it isn’t the right time for something to occur or to attain what we want.  Something else needs to be worked out first.  We don’t know what that is, but our Higher Power, God, the Universe, Source or whatever you want to call it always has our best interests at heart and has a better plan that we could ever have for ourselves (I will be using the word “God” from now on for consistency).  Know that timing is perfect.  Something so wonderful, so incredible, beyond our wildest dreams, better than we could have ever expected is in store for us.  We have to BELIEVE it in order for it to happen.  The key is getting out of our own way and making space for something bigger and better to happen.  We are the only one limiting our good.  Get out of the way and stop trying so hard to control everything.  LET GO, SURRENDER!

Many of us need to let go of negative belief systems. Some of our belief systems that we formed at a young age are faulty and don’t work to our benefit, but we cling to these beliefs because, although they don’t work for us, they are familiar. We may find ourselves in situations that repeatedly lead to unhappiness and frustration.  We don’t realize that there is something better and different available to us because we are blinded by our current reality.  As long as we remain stuck in these patterns, we don’t have to change. Change can be scary.  Unfortunately we wait until the pain of our lives gets so unbearable that we are forced to make a change.  It could be a situation that we need to let go of.  This may include releasing drama and stress from our lives by changing jobs, friendships, moving to a new place or finding alternative ways of interacting with others.  All of this suffering can be avoided if we let go on a daily basis to the will of God, and take the necessary actions we are guided to take.    

The first step in letting go is becoming aware that an area of our life is not working. Once we acknowledge that, take some time to just observe whatever comes up. As we are present in the moment, we can see clearly what is occurring in our lives. Once we have a conscious awareness of what we are doing, we can figure out what needs to change.

Next, we need to decide if we are ready to release this pattern. Until we are really open to change, nothing will budge. Letting go is up to us.  Letting go doesn't mean defeat, it means something isn't working and we need to consider other, more beneficial possibilities.  This is actually a very courageous act.  Once we acknowledge that something in our life isn't working, and we have made the conscious decision to let go, the next thing we need to do is find new ways of doing things. This step may take some time. Perhaps it may be observing ourselves and others to see what works and what doesn't.  Starting individual therapy, reading books, conversations with others or perhaps doing the healing work on ourselves through energy balancing, meditation, prayer, acupuncture, etc. are excellent ways to find answers.  Once you find the answer, replace the old belief with more self affirming one.  Consciously practice it when the old belief creeps in, and expect it to because it will.  Once practiced over and over, the new one will become second nature.  As we heal and balance ourselves we are breaking old patterns and finding new, better ways of living our lives. This is the path of letting go. When we release what no longer works, we are making room for something amazing to occur. We limit ourselves.  God doesn’t limit us.  I wonder how many wonderful opportunities have passed us by because of how our rigid view of the way things “should” have looked!

Letting go is a continuous process. We may surrender something only to latch back onto it.  It's important to remain present in the moment and continuously monitor what we are thinking, and doing. We don't want to fall back into old patterns. We don't want to release one thing only to replace it with something similar that doesn't work, just because it is familiar.  When we fear letting go, we don’t trust in God to provide the best for us.  Trust and faith is an important factor in letting go.  Breathe through the fear and discomfort of new situations and ways of being.  Feel the feelings.  Breaking patterns, letting go, and releasing things that do not serve us is a process that takes time, gentleness, flexibility and forgiveness.  May you walk gently on your path with God beside you every minute of every day and be guided to a life of greatness.  Don’t live another day in suffering and pain.  It’s a simple choice you can make.  Let go and let God!

Affirmation – I am letting go and releasing people, situations, thoughts, habits and patterns that no longer serve me.  I am open and receptive to all the good that my Higher Power has in store for me.  I live joyously, with love, peace, and prosperity always.

P.S. If you know someone who would like to learn more about letting go of what isn’t working and allowing in what will, please have them contact me.

Peace and Blessings,


Monday, July 28, 2014

Transforming Fear into Courage

Did you know that over 87% of the world's population lives their lives ruled by FEAR?  That’s an ungodly number!  The research done by Dr. David Hawkins for his best selling book Power vs. Force shows us that this is a reality of not only the times in which we are now living, but a representation of the whole of human existence.  It comes down to how we THINK about fear that has to power to destroy us or lift us up to the highest heights.
Fear is something we all deal with.  Fear holds us back.  Fear stops us from doing what we know we need to do to live a joy filled life.  It stops us from doing what we want to do.  Fear paralyzes us.  It steals our life right out from under us.  Worry and fear beget worry and fear and our lives mirror this negative belief system.  Fear is a real emotion from a real or perceived threat.  A real threat is when a lion is about to attack you or when a car is about to collide into you head on.  It causes all kinds of biological changes in the body that help you to make quick decisions and take quick actions based on survival.  This type of fear benefits you.  It helps you to react and take care of yourself, if there is time.   There are other fears that are perceived, ones that may or may not happen, usually future fears of some sort.  Fear of going broke and living on the streets, fear of losing your job, etc.  This unreal fear is based on past experiences and has nothing to do with the present situation at hand, but we believe it does.  It’s your ego protecting you from something that reminds your subconscious mind of a past negative outcome or of someone who has projected their fears onto you.  Just because it happened in the past doesn’t mean it will happen in the future.  Most likely it WON’T happen again.  Many of us live with fear and are not even aware of it because it’s become a way of life.  Now if you were aware of your fears and faced them consciously, you would actually see them as a great opportunity to grow and become a more courageous person.  Future outcomes are imagined images that we have made up in our heads.  If you are considering a certain course of action, you don’t know what the outcome will be.  You can only make your best decision with the knowledge you have in the moment.  Be true to your intuition and trust in your own abilities.  The future will be revealed and it usually is nothing like you imagined it, or if it is, it has happened for the best, for us to grow, to learn and to become better, more loving and compassionate people as a result.
Here is a quick checklist of how to identify what your fears are and to discover if they are actually YOUR fears (not just the residual effect of someone else).  Finally, a few steps to start overcoming them.
Overcoming Fear:
·         Acknowledge it. Become conscious of how it feels.  Become fully aware of what is                  stopping you from moving forward.
·         Identify what's behind the fear.  Is it real or perceived?
·         Talk yourself through the “what if's.”  If you can accept the worst that can happen,       fear won’t control you.
·         be objective, the fear is only there to test you
The feeling that you have when you break through fear, is utter joy.
You Can Do It!
Don’t live another minute of your life in fear.  It’s up to you to change your mind about fear and live a life of courage, adventure, excitement, love, trust and joy!  Take your life back into your own hands and trust that your Higher Power has a great plan for you.  

If you or someone you know would like to delve deeper into becoming free of fear, please call me at (805)279-4686.